I’m sure you’ve heard of the expression “put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then take care of others” yet most of us, especially women and those who are ‘people pleasers’ find it really hard to actually do this. Perhaps it’s a cultural thing, or a religious thing, or even a family of origin thing where putting ourselves last has some kind of merit. So even if we come to terms that our needs count, who’s like me and finds it hard to even set aside the time for self-care? I mean come on, we’re all super crazy busy right!? I hear this from people all the time; it’s become almost a contest of who can be busier. Is this something to be proud of? A status symbol of sorts? This past Monday, after a very full weekend, (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) I was wiped before the week even began. So I chose to take a “Self-Care Day.”

It was intentional. I needed to recharge and focus on who I am and what makes me come alive again. Since my bunion surgery, 7 weeks ago, my physical health and mobility has been slowly progressing. It did take a toll on my emotional self however. I felt less competent and like part of me was missing. Ever feel this way? I needed to gain some self-love and confidence so I began with a new exercise decision, swimming at the local community pool (it’s close, it’s nice, and it’s not expensive). To ensure I go regularly I encouraged (begged) my friend to go with me. I work well with accountability – I’m a bit of a rebel, even with my own plans, so knowing that I have someone to show up for makes me get my butt in gear! OMGosh it felt GREAT!!

Journaling, self-reflection, noticing my emotions, prayer and scriptures are fundamental to my emotional and spiritual well-being.

I added some new supplements and vitamins to help improve my focus, aging organs and sleep difficulties.

Then, the best way to end the day, a lavender Epsom salts bath! Luxury, comfort, relaxation and soothing for my aching muscles and feet.

The result from taking a SELF-CARE day: I felt happier & healthier, my energy was boosted, I felt like a nicer version of myself, my relationships improved and I recognized how resilient I am.

It was a good day.

How do you take care of yourself? What does your oxygen mask look like? When you feel out of alignment do you take precautions to attend to your values, the things that are important and bring fulfillment to you? Honestly, it’s not selfish, it’s part of self-care, self-compassion and self-confidence. If you struggle to incorporate this into your life, give me a call, in 30 minutes we can clarify what holds you back from accepting that you matter.

With love,
S xo